Chapter 8: Intoverts, the Workplace, and Myers-Briggs.
Introverted Feelers (INFP & ISFP).
From “THE HAPPY INTROVERT – A WILD AND CRAZY GUIDE FOR
CELEBRATING YOUR TRUE SELF”
by Elizabeth Wagele
Feeling types make judgments according to such values as compassion, beauty, empathic connections, and harmony. Introverted feeling types value personal experience and subjective meanings so highly, they look down upon collective opinions and the extraverts who hold them. They become inflexible when their deepest beliefs are threatened.
Extraverted feeling types also have strong values and develop their ability to relate to others.
Introverted feelers with sensing, ISFP’s, are compassionate, use and take pleasure in their five senses, and tend to be good listeners. If you are an idealist and a soul-searcher, you may be an introverted feeler with intuition, an INFP.
Are you a feeling type?
Feelers make the city human by filling it with meaning. They integrate the environment with worldviews that are continuous and supportive of a sane, balanced life. – Nigel Thompson
Note how many statements you agree with:
(1) You value interpersonal harmony above almost all else.
(2) You have a hard time becoming interested in things that aren’t personally meaningful to you.
(3) You care deeply about humanity and suffer when hearing about violence.
(4) You value expressing your appreciation, build trust, and heal others.
(5) You naturally empathize with children and animals and stand up for those who can’t speak for themselves.
(6) You like to help people feel comfortable.
(7) You want to be known as a loving and caring person.
(8) You worry that people find you too emotional or not clear-minded.
(9) Sometimes you compliment people before you’ve decided whether the compliment is warranted.
(10) You can feel things as others feel them.
(11) You are especially interested in human relationships.
(12) Whatever matters to your friends and loved ones matters to you.
(13) You love to have others praise you for what you have done.
(14) It pains you to tell people things they don’t want to hear.
If most of the above statements apply to you, you are probably a feeling type. If few of these statements apply to you, you can become more versatile by consciously developing your feeling side.
If you are an introverted feeler, you value ideals, art, and life, and are motivated to improve the human condition. When something upsets you at work, instead of retreating, make a point of staying and working things out. Make sure your environment is safe for expressing what you think and feel, or you might notice you are holding back your opinions.
Typical occupations for introverted feelers with sensation, ISFPs, include health care workers, medical technicians, food service workers, carpenters, teachers, bookkeepers, secretaries, nurses, physical therapists, musicians, gardeners, and artists. Your sensing is extraverted.
Coworkers appreciate you as for your ability to give down to earth assistance, remember details, form empathic connections, and keep track of time. You are probably good-natured and keep the workplace pleasant, for which you like praise. Try not to let your wish to avoid conflict get in the way of expressing your feelings. You have a caring and harmonizing nature and are especially good at working with plants, animals, and children.
Typical occupations for introverted feelers with intuition, INFPs, include psychologists, artists, writers, philosophers, teachers, editors, inventors, and musicians. Your intuition is extraverted.
If you are an introverted feeler with intuition you are creative, recognize potential in others, and understand abstract, intangible aspects of life. Avoid jobs that place you in highly competitive situations.
The rich inner life is definitely worth all we “introverted feelers with intuition” go through. When I see a flower, a blade of grass, a Coke can, or anything else, I have a richer experience than someone whose inner life is neglected. I wouldn’t give that up for anything. That’s just one of many things that I love about being this type. – Nigel Thompson, an INFP.
Honor your need for quiet, consciously use your thinking ability to determine whether you have overlooked any important facts or details, and look for opportunities to engage your imagination.
Where does one moment end and another begin? To me there are no such divisions. We attempt to freeze time but actually time is like flowing water. We say, “Here is the Mississippi River” or “here is the Atlantic Ocean.” But the water pays no mind to our silly little divisions. It flows where it will and is always in a state of oneness. Time is the same. Any divisions are artificial devices, illusions. Just ask yourself, “When does one moment end and another begin?” What can possibly separate time from itself? – Nigel Thompson, an INFP.
The inferior function
Introverted feelers’ least developed and most unconscious function is extraverted thinking, which may be triggered by being criticized or self-criticism. It often takes the form of nit-picking or being hostile, critical, or sarcastic.