Each of the nine chapters begins with a Personality Quiz in which the parent is asked..., "Does your child...?" followed by eight questions. .... For my Four daughter, the answers to, "Does your child want to be special, have a closet full of clothes, enjoy the arts or collect beautiful treasures, look at things in a creative or special way, seem depressed or melancholy at times?" were a definite "yes." It was a "yes" also for my Eight son who I recall had "a great deal of energy and strength, showed anger and dissatisfaction freely, made his presence known, gave teachers and baby-sitters a hard time.

In the pages following, Wagele, a professional cartoonist, uses her talent, humor, and understanding of the Enneagram to describe characteristics of each Type using cartoons. The drawings accompanied by characteristics are right on target. If you have a sense of humor about yourself and your child, you will have some fun. In one cartoon there is an Eight child saying, "You'll stay in the corner until I want my dinner!" while her parents, sucking their thumbs, are standing sheepishly together in the corner. The caption reads, "Sometimes they seize control of their parents." So true for many parents who have an Eight child.

Another cartoon is the Seven cat who is thinking, "I deserve it," as he looks at ten cans of cat food. A characteristic caption over the picture says, "Idealistic, love what the world has to offer and feel good about themselves". The Three child is described as wanting to look good. This description is followed by a picture of two moms each pushing a child in a stroller. One child says to the other child, "Do you like traveling in a piece of junk?"

The cartoons that will get the most laughs and are the most pithy and to the point are The Enneagrams of Blankies, Embryos, Adolescence, and Nosebleeds. Be hind the cartoons, however, is the truth of it and a clear picture of how the differences in children ring loud and true. Here we can see most clearly that children are different. In The Enneagram of Embryos, the Nine is thinking, "Can't I just stay in here? It's so nice and warm." Whereas the Six is asking, "What if they don't like babies? What if my mattress is too hard? What if I don't like their food?" In the Enneagram of Blankies the Five is sitting under the Blankie, while the Two is saying, "What you need is a blankie." If you have or had children going through adolescence, be sure to read the Enneagram of Adolescence. What's fun is sitting around with a group of adults and their adult children who know the Enneagram well and can laugh at themselves.

Wagele outlines potential problems and parenting suggestions for each type... Under "Study Habits" the author suggests to parents of the Six child to "ease the stress and anxiety of all children by teaching them to do their homework right after school and to start reports the day the assignment is given." In "Getting Along with Others" a parent's response to the rage exhibited by the Six child should be to "remain calm, and let your child's anger wind down by itself instead of overreacting or fighting against it." For "Decision Making," parents can help a Two child who is "often out of touch with their desires" by "playing a game to help where all the members of the family present and defend their opinions about a chosen subject." Under the area of "Responsibility," parents may become too dependent on the One child's goodness and helpfulness. One-ish children need to be "encouraged to be playful and silly and do things they really enjoy" rather than parents pressuring them "to get results that make parents feel they are doing a good job of parenting."

Some types may have problems in areas where other types may not.... For example, the problem of "Emotional Maturity" can be more of an obvious problem for the Eight-ish child than for the Nine child. Wagele writes that "Eight-ish children are often immature when it comes to controlling their anger. They can go nuts if they accidentally get bumped, for instance, or if something doesn't work right. They need firm, structured and patient parents who can teach them how to get their minds on something else when they're angry." Nine children are thought of as "really sweet." Quite a contrast to the Eight. On the other hand when it comes to responsibility, Nine children "sometimes procrastinate, get side tracked." The Eight is "usually good at taking care of a younger child or pet or protecting a loved one."

The other half of the picture is the parent knowing his/her type and how that impacts the parent-child relationship. Wagele gives brief stories and descriptions of each type as it relates to a parenting style. Wagele captures the core of each type and how that type plays out the parenting role.... One parents, who can be firm and structured, which allows the young child to feel secure, may need to be more flexible as the children get older. Fives may find it difficult to be present to their children, so "perhaps they'd feel comfortable setting aside a chunk of time each day for being truly present with their child."

As a parent educator and Enneagram instructor, I have great respect for combining the two disciplines, parenting and the Enneagram. ....Problems may originate because a parent is a certain type. For example, a Nine parent with an Eight child may be... in the wrong roles.... The Nine, who wants to keep peace, may not provide or follow through with limits for the Eight child who wants to be in control....